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Calling PTSD a 'disorder' keeps vets from seeking help, says Assemblyman Nathan Fletcher
Aida Spivey expected her husband, Curtis, to be different when he returned home from his first of three deployments to Iraq. Curtis had been places and seen things she couldn't imagine, and she tried to prepare herself for the backlash.
“I knew he would need some time to adjust, and that was fine,” said Spivey. “What I did not except was for him to be a completely different person.”
Curtis, an Army Specialist and Chula Vista native, did two tours as an infantryman with the Marine Corps and one with the Army.
“Each time he deployed I noticed there was something wrong with him. He became more aggressive, and any random noise would set him off,” recalled Spivey. “Curtis was never the type of person you fought with, but with time he became so much more aggressive.”
Spivey remembers her husband running for cover when a car backfired. He suffered from constant nightmares and would often zone out when driving, she said.
But, like many others, he refused to ask for help.
“I never understood why Cutis refused to go seek help, other than [what was] required by the military,” said Spivey. “I think that perhaps he was too proud for some reason. He said he never needed it.”
On his last tour in 2006, Curtis was hit by an IED and flown back stateside. After some time at Walter Reed Army Medical Center in Washington, D.C., he returned to San Diego, where he died from his injuries at the Veterans Affairs hospital in La Jolla in April 2007, leaving behind his wife and two-year-old daughter, Mariana.
Like many soldiers deployed overseas to combat zones, Curtis witnessed and experienced things incomprehensible to the rest of us, said his wife.
“He saw friends dying and kids getting shot, including a little girl who was shot and killed after she waved at their convoy,” she said. “He kept saying, ‘that could’ve been our daughter.’”
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